The short answer to the question above is, “You bet it can!” T

he longer answer is, it’s not usually the first resort when you want to improve your love life.Most people are intrigued by the idea of sex therapy, but have no idea of what it entails, what clients and therapists do, and are afraid the first step is always taking off your clothes.

Let’s get some straight talk about sex therapy:

Sex therapy is not about taking off your clothes. For the most part, the therapist will talk with his or her clients, give suggestions, ask questions, understand what the clients’ objectives are, and work out an action plan to achieve those objectives.

Even before a therapist can start to change behavior, they need to check out what you are thinking and feeling about yourself, your partner, and the two of you as sexual beings. Let’s face it: most of us have grown up with or gathered some limiting beliefs and attitudes about sex that interfere with our pleasure and satisfaction. So, the therapist will be sure to address these first, so they can be acknowledged, dispelled, and defused.

The next step is insuring you know about what you want to do. Typically, clients have some misconceptions or lack vital information they need to have satisfying senior sex. After the initial introductory session, a sex therapist typically starts with giving accurate information about sexual functioning, anatomy and physiology. You can’t start to change what you’ve been doing unless you understand the process and the parts that need to work together to insure your intimate experiences will both pleasurable and fulfilling. So, first things first: getting the information you need.

Then the therapy shifts into high gear. The sex therapist will use all the information you’ve provided, including your wants and needs, any limitations you might have, like bad knees or an arthritic hip, and start to outline a change plan.

Typically, you will get suggestions about new approaches to practice, techniques to implement, and activities to do before each of your practice sessions, and instructions on how to debrief your practice sessions.

Some of the suggestions may be very explicit. Specific activities to do, techniques to use, and equipment that might be helpful.  Others will be topics to discuss or communication patterns to try.

Your practice sessions are just for the two of you, in the privacy of your own home, with no one else around.

Of course, you will debrief with the therapist, what went well, what didn’t, what to do instead, and what to do next.

Learning new love’n techniques and practices is like any other learning…it is hard to get started with new activities…but the more you practice,, the easier it becomes and you start to reap the rewards of your hard work.

In my newest book, How to Enjoy a Satisfying Love Life All Life Long, I use these same sex therapy practices to help couples increase their satisfaction with senior sex even if he sometimes has trouble with ED. Check it out http://satisfyingseniorsex.com/keep-on-loven/