Here’s the problem with trying to solve any problem. The more you worry, fuss about it, and watch to see if things are alright, the worse the problem gets. Especially when you think you might have ED.

If you look down to see if it is up yet, it will stay down.

It’s all about focus and blood flow. Both of which are exquistely susepticle to emotional pressure.

The more you pay attention to what your penis is doing, the more your blood flows into your head and the less likely it will flow to your penis. And the less likely you’ll have an erection.

Thinking is a distraction.

You don’t need distractions, you need to be both focused and relaxed at the same time.

Unfortunately most men focus on the wrong thing. When you get so focused on failing, you inadvertedly set yourself up to fail.

It’s what psychogists call hypervigilence. You notice all the signs of failure and none of the signs of success. Or you discount them as not as many, as much, or as often as the signs of failure you see everywhere.

Your increasing scrutiny gets interpreted as a sign of lack of confidence. Then, it’s a down hill course.

You become more and more disengaged and demoralized. And, your “performance” just gets worse and worse.

The more you look, and judge yourself, the worse it will get. Pretty soon you can convince yourself you’re one of those that has permanent, unfixable, total ED. You’ve convinced yourself you’ve become one of the many for whom there is no hope.

And then you give up and stop having any kind of sex. Or,  maybe try a last ditch effort, you blame your partner. You tell yourself, 30 years with the same woman, three kids, those stretch marks, wrinkles, and same old same old. Maybe trying someone else, or  a younger woman, or a quick affair to see if you still work. Only to find out it won’t. Because you’re carrying your problem around with you.

The best solution? Stop focusing on trying to have an erection.

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