The most frequently missed step in improving your senior sex life is working on desire first.
Not the desire to have a better intimate relationship, but reawakening the desire you have had for each other and then leveraging that desire into sexual desire.
A little note here from a woman’s perspective. We love to feel loved and be reminded that we’re loved.
Loved, and not just sexually.
Not because of our sensuous body, long flowing hair, soft skin, or beautiful eyes, but because we are who we are. Right now. The way we look and feel now.
I know many of us don’t have the body we had when we were first married, first met, or even what we were 10 years ago. Aging does that to all of us.
Nonetheless, older bodies need love’n and cherishing too.
On a regular basis.
Even before we get in bed.
Start in the kitchen, the living room, or even while you’re driving around doing errands.
Start wherever you are. Tell you love her, you like her, and you like how she loves you.
Let her know not just how much you care for her, but how much you appreciate her, what she does for you, for the kids, grandkids, the dog, for herself, and how much she adds to your life.
Or, give her a little nuzzle behind her ear, on her chin, inside her elbow, or just rub your finger over her palm when you are holding hands.
Your objective is to remind each other that you love one another, and desire one another.
The best desire building activity?
Writing down positive thoughts about your honey, your relationship, and even your previous sexual sessions.
Make desire building activities a daily habit. Or if that’s too big of a step, start with a couple times a week and work up to daily. Be sure to include both physical and verbal messages of love and appreciation.
It all starts with desire.
Remember even those “cure all pills” can’t work until there’s desire.
