While there has been lots written about how men react to their fear of having ED, often little attention is paid to how women react when they fear their love is struggling with ED.
Not only do women have to deal with their fears about you, but then need to deal with Read More→
Sphere: Related ContentTalking to your doc about ED is really hard for most men.
It’s not that they aren’t concerned, or don’t have questions. Most men do. In a recent survey, well over half of men over 50 did have some concerns. But significantly less than half ever talk with their doc about their sexual issues. Especially ED.
If this is you, you have lots of company. Unfortunately, Read More→
Sphere: Related ContentEvery client I’ve ever worked with, both on personal issues and in the work place, has placed the blame of the difficulties they’re having to communication.
What’s been fascinating the vast differences in what people mean about communication problems.
Sometimes it’s some version of “he doesn’t listen.” When what they really meant is Read More→
Sphere: Related ContentED always affects your partner, whether she’s your wife of many years or a new girl friend. And, most women know there is something wrong, you’re having trouble, especially if it’s ED, even before you tell us.
Many women will react to their fears of your having ED with self doubt and shame. They’re sure they’re the cause of your problems. You must no longer find them attractive, have found someone else younger and prettier, surely thinner, with fewer wrinkles and sags, and certainly not post-menopausal.
Older women have their own sexual issues to deal with as they age. No longer being attractive enough, or sexually competent is right at the top of most women’s list.
Plus, they don’t have the hormones that promote desire and sex they had when they were younger.
So, it’s a short hop from feeling unattractive and incompetent to feeling responsible and at fault for your ED. “If I were just different, you would be okay,” is the most common lament.
I know…it is sort of crazy…but no one reacts to ED with total sanity. Women can be just as nutso about it as men. And, feel just as helpless.
Add in the same non-sex related fears and regrets, roads not taken and challenges coming up…retirement, grand-parenting, finally getting the kids out of the house, this time for good. And our fears escalate.
Many women are sure that the man in her life is signaling the end of their sexual life, and she just needs to get with the program. She gets the message, you are both past the time of intimacy. And, it’s her fault.
Add in a few chronic or nagging health problems, aging parents, uncertain finances, and it’s a wonder either of you can have sex at all…much less with the same vigor and energy we all had as youngsters.
Most couples will fold under the pressure. And make the decision, often without even talking about it, that their intimate life really is over.
You may not like it, you may miss it, and wish it wasn’t so, but either or both of you have decided.
It’s over.
No more.
And, neither of you realize just how wrong you are. Or that many other couples facing the same issues you are, have found that with a few accommodations they can keep on love’n all life long, no matter how old they are, or how old they get to be.
Don’t let the fear of ED, erectile dysfunction, prevent you from enjoying satisfying senior sex. Get your copy of my latest book about how to keep on love’n even if you think you might have ED, go to http://www.satisfyingseniorsex.com/keep-on-loven
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The relationship we have with ourselves, how we feel and think about who we are and what we do, is a major cause of sexual difficulties, especially ED.
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