One of the questions that I’m often asked is from couples who want to keep on love’n, but find arthritis is getting in their way. While arthritis is no longer considered an “old person’s disease” is can be a real hinderance to having satisfying senior sex.
Especially if one or both of you have arthritis in your hip, legs, arms, or back.
And, if you are still relying on what we used to call “The Missionary Position” for all your lovemaking.
Most couple get into a groove of what positions are best for them. Over the course of their life together, their lovemaking skills and activities are refined and honed. They are accustomed to a certain routine, with variations of course.
Now, when your body is no longer cooperating, it’s time to find new activities and routines that can be just as satisfying.
If one of you has had joint replacement surgery, be sure to talk with your doctor about when you can resume sexual activity. Don’t wuss out and be afraid to bring up the subject. Remember doctors are people too, and if your doc doesn’t talk to you about it, ask the question. Joint replacement surgery doesn’t have to mean the end of your love life.
When arthritis is a part of your love’n, one of the simplest solutions is for the partner who has less pain, or less difficulty moving, do more of the moving around. The partner with more pain still needs to have the option of moving when they’re able to, or shifting when they start to feel a lot more pain.
Many older couples find lying in the “spoon position” with her back cuddled up against his front to be more comfortable, and less rigorous for both of them. Or, tuning around and cuddling together facing each other. Both of these positions are especially good if the man is having back pain.
When a woman has back, hip or knee problems, try having her lie on her back with her knees together, and then the man can support himself on his hands and knees to take his weight off his partner.
Be sure to use pillows or bolsters to help get yourselves into these new positions. This is the time to get creative to make sure each of you is comfortable, and can focus on the task at hand: having wonderful, satisfying senior sex.
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